This means you’re placing the entire relationship on the other person’s shoulders.This isn’t exactly fair to them, and it’s not fair to you either because you miss out on building that strong foundation with them.If both of you are in early recovery, it just doubles the chance of disaster.Dating during sobriety is a nice distraction from the problems you’re going through, but it’s just that: a distraction.Men and women learn a lot in recovery, not just about staying sober but living a happy, satisfying life.They don’t need to be taken care of; they learned how to do that for themselves.After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?
The common belief, however, is that those who are recovering from addiction and alcoholism should not date within the first year.
Years of addiction have taken their toll on your body, mind and spirit. Would you really want to begin a new relationship during this time.
When you aren’t healthy, you don’t bring much to the table, after all.
For others, one soured relationship can trigger a surge of dysfunctional thoughts and behaviors, eventually leading to relapse.
Is your recovery solid enough to withstand a relationship?