Sometimes I read things that actually make me physically ill. There’s a group called “Dating a Banker Anonymous” for, you guessed it, women who are dating bankers.It would be one thing if it were a real support group about how to deal with the economic crisis, but no – it’s a group that invites women to join “if your monthly Bergdorf’s allowance has been halved and bottle service has all but disappeared from your life.” OMG!I clearly am not eligible since I just had to google “Bergdorf.” Ha.These women get together and complain to each other that they “haven’t been taken on a trip in awhile.” This whole messy ordeal has advanced my Botox start date by at least two years.Even more explicit was the explanation Newsweek's Tony Dokopuil got from site cofounder Laney Crowell, whosays that what the Times described as a "support group" of about 30 women is actually a full-blown parody - and it's at least partly fictionalized.There is no real support community, no regular meetings and the blog is written by Crowell and her lawyer sidekick Megan Petrus, who concoct entries out of a mixture of their own experiences, stories of people who email the site, and anecdotes of girls they meet socially.The Times responded to Holmes, defending the piece and snottily concluding: I'm not sure what is thought might be fake about this.Ravi did talk to some of the men to verify the relationships and get their side.
Dating A Banker Anonymous (DABA) is a safe place where women can come together – free from the scrutiny of feminists– and share their tearful tales of how the mortgage meltdown has affected their relationships.But Holmes' skepticism has been vindicated, based on the "Editor's Note" in Wednesday's Times admitting the January 28 article by freelance reporter Ravi Somaiya was overblown. 28 about women who commiserated over dating Wall Street bankers caught in the financial crisis described a group they had formed, Dating a Banker Anonymous, as a support group. Its creators originally told The Times that about 30 women had participated, but since publication, they have said that all involved were friends.Laney Crowell, one of the women who started the blog, said in the article that it was "very tongue in cheek;" she has since described it as a satire that embellishes true experiences for effect.It describes itself as 'A safe place where women can come together, free from the scrutiny of feminists, and share their tearful tales of how the mortgage meltdown has affected their relationships.'Dawn Spinner Davis, 26, recently signed up to Dating a Banker Anonymous after her husband stopped playing golf and she began to feel the pressures of supporting her 28-year-old private wealth manager man. Megan Petrus set up the group after her relationship with a trader of a major bank suffered when he seemed more concerned about a colleague being made redundant than her father having a heart attack.She explained: 'One of his best friends told me that my job is now to keep him calm and keep him from dying at the age of 35 but it’s not what I signed up for.'Her situation is shared by Christine Cameron whose financial analyst boyfriend kept getting drunk and would disappear while they were out together, then accuse her the next day of being the one who had gone missing. In it, freelancer Ravi Somaiya described a group called Dating A Banker Anonymous (DABA) as "a support group founded in November to help women cope with the inevitable relationship fallout from, say, the collapse of Lehman Brothers or the Dow’s shedding 777 points in a single day, as it did on Sept.