It’s fun, but it doesn’t become ‘real’ until you’ve met in person and found out if there’s a spark between you. A number of factors will affect how long you wait and each situation will be unique, Some people like to meet matches as soon as possible, especially if they’re local.
This can be done very safely if you choose a daytime meeting in a busy local cafe and arrange to have a quick coffee together to decide if you’d like to get to know each other better.
So you’ve found a match that you’re interested in and the feeling is mutual but now what do you do?
The second secret, of course, is making sure the first date goes well!
As most online daters know, it's not the first date that's hard to get — it's the second.
But if you're dating because you want a relationship and not just a date, making a connection and getting that second date (and third and fourth) is the whole point.
This approach has many advantages; you can learn more about someone within 10 minutes of meeting them than you would in hours of carefully constructed emails.
This is also a good approach for people who aren’t very confident expressing themselves in writing.