Were you tongue-tied and did you feel that you hadn’t made a very good job of selling yourself?
Your first phone conversation with a stranger can be tricky - especially if you are trying to get to know each other in the process. A phone call is an excellent way of testing the water.
How should I prepare for the first phone call with someone I’m talking to online? These are questions a reader asked me recently and he was wondering if recommended handling the first phone call just like I recommend for planning for first date conversations.
Now the first thing I want to say is that early on in my online dating experience I did move from emails to phone calls and then first dates.
Here are some tips on how best to handle that important first phone conversation.
So you were none the wiser after the first phone call than you were before?
I don’t see moving to phone calls as a bad thing, but I found meeting in person was much more valuable and more revealing so I aimed to get to the meeting part as quickly as I could.
I found that detecting chemistry over the phone wasn’t something I was good at.
You’re not being unreasonable, and you’re right to assume that people who insist on that call or who judge you negatively for it won’t be worth the effort. The only people who need to talk on the phone are the time-wasters and the paranoid. And Thats Why Youre Article Roundup Awkward Bad Dates Book Break Ups Casual Dating Casual sex Cheating Commitment Date Like a Man Dating Dating & Finances Dating 2.0 Dating After Divorce Dating In a Big City Dating is Fun Dating Lies Dating Myths Dating Over 35 Dating Over 40 Dating Realities Dating Skills Dating The Crazy Douchey Guys First Date Etiquette First Date Sex First Impressions Happy & Healthy Hook Up Culture Latests Posts Meeting Men Meeting Women Moxie 101 NEW!recently, and I’ve had a few guys request talking on the phone before meeting in person.Personally, I am not comfortable or interested in phone chats with strangers, and would rather just meet for coffee or drinks to see if we are compatible.However, if you prefer to move to the phone before meeting or if you’re talking to someone who prefers that, I would recommend the following.When I offer advice on the first date, I recommend lots of planning (see my post on first date conversations that I mentioned above).However, as time went by, I started to avoid phone conversations.